Statement One: “Wait for me sweetheart, I’ll call.”
Statement Two: “Hon, I thought of going to the New Zealand International Arts Festival, but I wanted to check with you first.”
Innocent sounding statements.
Or are they?
It was easy to say the first but impossible to execute.
It’s the reason why people kill themselves.
The lonely, depressed person, sitting in the dark, all by himself; he was told hours earlier “I should finish my rehearsal by 5 at the very latest” but it’s now 11:30 and he’s still waiting.
Sitting there in the dark, thinking, imagining, he almost went mad.
And the next day she said, “Oh I thought you were ok being by yourself. You’re a big boy, aren’t you?”
Words used to pacify kids
And you want to try that on him?
The second statement was made after plans have been made; emails sent, ex-lover contacted, accommodation arranged for, restaurant reservations made, flights booked.
And then she said “Hon, I thought of going to the New Zealand International Arts Festival, but I wanted to check with you first.”
What difference does it make?
She has already made her plans.
So why is she even asking?
Out of “courtesy”?
Out of “respect”?
Surely NOT out of respect, for sure.
Talk is cheap, isn’t it?
It’s time people put some weightage on words.