The Unthinkable

19 kids brutally gunned down by a crazy motherfucker in Texas!

I can’t even begin to imagine how griefed the parents must be.

The death of a child is more than just heart-breaking.

I will be beside myself if one of my kids dies.

Equally heart-rending is the phenomenon of child suicides.

I just read a very disturbing article about child suicides in a recent issue of The New Yorker.

It rattled me.

Every life is precious.

And when kids kill themselves, it is especially tragic and sad.

Child rearing is not easy.

Maybe that’s why many couples have decided not to have children.

Some of the things they say:

“The drain kids bring to your life!”

“You are only ever as happy as your unhappiest child.”

“When you have a kid you realize you will never relinquish the ability to worry.”

As for me, my kids – and grandkids – bring me so much joy, truly endless joy.

Of course there have been challenges too, and I often fail as a father and grandfather.

But we let shit go and we move on to the best of our abilities.

As for suicides, no matter what your age is, remember suicide is a permanent, irreversible “solution” to often temporary problems.

Indeed, suicide totally eliminates the likelihood of things getting better.

Also, it just moves the pain to your family and loved ones.

If you feel hopeless, please get help.

There is more to life than you’ve known so far.

Some of the best days of your life haven’t happened yet.

There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can be right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to arrive at your best.

Your heart will heal, your tears will dry, your season will change. Chill, knowing the storm will end.

Whenever you find yourself doubting if you can go on, just remember how far you’ve come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won and all the fears you have overcome. Then RAISE your head high and forge ahead knowing YOU GOT THIS!

Yes, when things feel overwhelming, remember: One THOUGHT at a time, One TASK at a time, One DAY at a time.

Stay safe, stay strong!


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